One of my sista bloggers on tumblr and her followers were discussing a disturbing hashtag that some sistas started, countering a video that was posted by a self-hating negro boy. From what I gather from the conversation, the video was footage of some black girls just dancing and having fun at a pool party or gathering and the negro boy titled it. “This is why this generation sucks for us men because we’re forced to pick a wife out of this bunch“. Below is a small part of the conversation between sista blogger and one of her followers:
Follower: “So are the black girls on Twitter using the hash tag #allblackgirlsdont gonna receive a cookie or a prize from whites or some black men because they’re “different”? I love black women but honestly I can’t support the type of black women who places respectability politics on other black women and who looks down on certain types of black women.”
Blogger: “The ##AllBlackGirlsDont hashtag on Twitter is a hot ass mess. The black women under that hashtag aren’t doing it right at all. They’re basically saying “Hey please like me because I’m not like those other black women” Instead of saying “Hey I deserve to be respected because A, B, and C, regardless”. Especially when one sista said all black women don’t have nappy hair, and other negative stereotypes. I give up, I really am about to give up and just start going off on black “some” black women too.
I’m glad to see sistas gathering the black male hypocrites about that video, but a whole bunch of black men are reblogging it and I think that’s what started the #AllBlackgirlsdont hashtag. Ugh I hate everything!
We don’t get special cookies for trying to prove how we’re not “like those other black women.”
Sistas, you don’t have to shame other black women in order to prove that you deserve to be treated with respect, dignity, and humanity. It doesn’t help anything that way. Saying “Not all of us are (insert negative stereotypes associated with black women that shames those black women who represents those stereotypes) are like that, is not how to go about it. On my blog I stress repeatedly how all black women deserve to represented and treated with humanly respect no matter where she’s from, how she looks, or what she represents.
Social media is a clear look through the windows of how people view black women.”
I agree 100% with the sistas above, what the sistas on twitter did was an epic fail. Black Women catch crazy hell from everybody, whites, “the black community,” non-black poc, other black women and these “I’m not like those other black women” black women ARE NOT HELPING AT ALL.
Respectability politics or the politics of respectability refers to attempts by marginalized groups to police their own members and show their social values as being continuous and compatible with mainstream values rather than challenging the mainstream for its failure to accept difference.-From Wikipedia
The meme below illustrates to a T how society and the “black community” hit sistas with the respectability politics.
Black people have been doing it to each other for years and black people and black women do it to other black women…..ALL THE TIME. Gotdammit! A sista can’t have fun like the sistas in the video dancing and twerking without negro boys and girls slut-shaming and or policing their behaviors. Black Women/Girls have been twerking and dancing for how long now? Thousands (probably) millions of years…before everyone else came into existence. What’s fucking new?!? Many Black Women notice how the “black community” wanna always police Black Women/Girls behaviors from what they THINK we should wear to who they THINK we should fuck to how they THINK we should behave. See , It’s misogynoir (anti-black misogyny) and sexism that drives society and the “black community” to police Black Women 24/7/365 like hapless teens or little children. I bet each of you $20 a piece these negro boys WOULD NOT have done this if they were white and or non-black girls. To society and the “black community” : A black girl twerking=ghetto, slut, hoe, unfit to be a wife, and all things bad and; A white/non-black girl twerking= cool, groundbreaking, feminism, and all things good. So a black woman/girl twerking makes her an unfit wife?!? Negros have several seats!!!
The meme below is a great illustration of black womens’ multifaceted-ness, just like any other woman and human being:
As for the Black Women who started the hastag, Black Sharon from the suburbs IS NOT SUPERIOR than Black Shaniqua from the ghetto. Have several seats!!! Like the sistas said, “You gets no cookie from self-haters and society for being “a different kind of black woman.” *I’m soooo sick of both society and the “black community” with their policing of Black Women’s thoughts, behaviors, and bodies. All of this is just one of the many examples of Black Women’s struggle against racio-misogyny……from society and “the black community”. Black Women just can’t be feminine, human, or just fucking be ourselves (whether we twerk or not). We fucking can’t just be. We’re criticized for just existing! Sistas can’t catch a break! GOD HELP THE BLACK WOMAN!